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Divorce and Remarriage

Before 1970 a person had to prove in a court of law that their partner was causing significant harm to the family. If there was no abuse, abandonment, adultery or alcoholism present in the relationship then the court wouldn’t grant the divorce. When a person proved that there was a valid reason for a divorce it made the division of property and the children a clear choice. The children would live with the parent that weren’t at fault for the divorce. The other partner was responsible for paying child support and generally the couple that kept the children also received the majority of the material things. This seemed to work out pretty well. However, in 1970 California passed the no fault act that allowed couples to divorce because they didn’t want to be together anymore. This caused problems on how to divide the material possessions and the who would get custody of the children. In most states the mother will be the one to have custody of the children. The father would then have ...
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Parenting

What is the purpose of parenting? There are many different purposes for parenting in todays society. The main purpose is to parenting is to provide for the needs of their children. This includes the physical, emotional, and mental needs. Another would be to teach children become better citizens and be leaders. Parents also learn a lot about their children and themselves through parenting.   Michael Popkin teaches people how to parent their children. He said that the purpose of parenting is protect and prepare children to survive and thrive in the world they will live in. This is an interesting way to look at parenting children. Parents are to protect their children from the potential dangers of the world they will grow up in. Children need to be prepared for the situations they will grow up in so that they can become effective leaders in the future. The future of a child is not always set in stone to be successful. Depending on how they are raised will determine if they w...
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Finances and Families

In today's society it is difficult to achieve the financial stability that most couples desire. I feel like this is because society has become so materialized over the past couple of years. It is difficult to live on a small income because people feel like they need more money to be happier. It is interesting that, so many couples are working full time to care for their families, yet they are losing quality time with their children. Among the Latter-Day Saint community, it is common for mothers to stay home with their children. Even thought Latter-Day Saints community would like to have mothers staying home it is becoming difficult for them to do so. I feel that it is possible for mothers to stay home with their children, while living on the father’s budget. There are a couple ways that a family can make this possible. They are an inventory of needs, have advice from a financial planner, be proactive and make a budget. First, a couple needs to sit down to make an inventory o...
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Communication and Family Counsels

Many people think they are good at communicating effectively but in reality, we are all terrible at it. Communicating is not just an exchange of word between people. It includes the nonverbal actions, the tone of your voice and of course what is being said. Because, there are so many elements of communication it makes it difficult to relay what you really want to say and really mean. The other reason there is miscommunication is because there are six steps in which thoughts are communicated to another person. This leaves room for lots of mistakes to take place. The sender has a thought or a feeling which is then encoded. While encoding it the sender decides what medium they will use to send the thought (words used, nonverbal, tone, in person, though text ect.). Once it is passed through the medium there can be some static, which are distractions, experiences or the environment that can influence the meaning of the thought. The message must be decoded by the receiver and then act...
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Family Stress and Coping

What is Stress and why is it important in our lives? Stress is strain and tension within our individual lives, but also in the family unit. Stress is a necessary part of our lives. Without it our lives would be easy, with no purpose or things to puss us to be better. Stress is especially important in the family unit because it can help to strengthen every member. When engineers are building bridges, they bundle material that is generally weak together to make it stronger. They then put those bundles under tension or strain to make the bridge function properly. It is fascinating that the bridges need stress to be held together. Another example of necessary stress would be our muscles and bones. First our bodies have a certain amount of stress placed on them from gravity. Along with gravity we can increase the stress by working out. With all this stress and strain placed on our bodies we strengthen our muscles and bones to function at a higher level. With these examples it shou...
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Sexual Intimacy an Example for the Family

Intimacy is a very controversial topic in today’s society because the majority of people sexualize it. However, intimacy doesn’t just apply with sex. Dictionary.com defines intimacy as a close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. I like this definition because it shows that intimacy is the small, loving acts of kindness that show affection for someone you love. It is true that deep affection leads to sexual intimacy. Yet in today’s society I feel that the affection and really intimacy is lost to sex being taught as a something so meaningless and just recreational. I would like to talk about how intimacy and sexual intimacy can affect the family. In the book written by Lauer and Lauer the author talks about the different stages of intimacy and how it leads to sexual intimacy. Men and women experience these stages differently because of the difference in hormones, anatomy and even just brain make up. It is these differe...
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Transitioning Into Marriage

When does the transition in to marriage began? Some would think that it starts the minute the couple says, “I Do”. However, this is a false thought because the transition starts during the processes of engagement. Engagement is thought to be the trial run of marriage however; the couple still doesn’t live together. So, if the transition starts at the engagement what things need to be talked over and figured out? First, would be all the headache of wedding planning. Both parties and their parents should be involved in the planning. This could be used as a great opportunity for bonding and spending quality time together. Also, the couple must talk about who will be paying for the wedding. This is important so that the couple doesn’t run into problems down the road. Some problems that can arise from the cost of the wedding would be going into debt, the parents thinking they are in charge of what happens at the wedding and much more. Some of these problems can be avoided if there is co...
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